Month: July 2015

Black women, don’t apologize for your anger.

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My anger has meant pain to me but it has also meant survival, and before I give it up I’m going to be sure that there is something at least as powerful to replace it on the road to clarity.  – Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider, “Uses of Anger”

Angry Black Woman.
Bitter Black Woman.
We run from these labels.  We deny being angry.  We deny being hurt.  We deny any emotion that does not mean we are happy in our lives.  And I get it.  These labels have been used to dehumanize us.  These labels have been used to make us appear scarier than others, more aggressive than others. 

These labels have been used as a way to silence us.  It has come to the point where standing up for ourselves labels us as angry.  When we speak our truths about rape and abandonment, we are considered bitter.  The world has done such a good job at casting this angry shadow as something to be ashamed of that we stop speaking up.  They have turned our anger into a weakness.

We are not weak.  Anger is not weak.  Emotion is not weak.  When we are ignored, we should be angry.  When our daughters are disciplined and suspended at higher rates than other races of children for the same offenses, we should be angry.  When we start the #BlackLivesMatter movement and are erased from it, we should be angry.  When there are 65,000+ of us missing, we should be angry.  When we are blamed for our rapes, bruises & broken bones, we should be angry.  When we remain the backbone while receiving lackluster support, we should be angry.

Do not let anyone take this powerful emotion away from you.  Do not let them coerce you into putting out your fire.  Anger, being fed up and tired, is what has been the catalyst of change.  It wasn’t the wrongs that have been done.  No.  It wasn’t until someone said, “I just can’t take this shit anymore!” that things began to change.  It wasn’t until that angry person came together with other angry people and said enough is enough.  What happens if Mamie Till has a small, closed casket funeral for Emmett?  What becomes of the civil rights movement?  Our anger is invaluable.

We don’t have the luxury of giving our anger away for free. 

We don’t have the luxury of giving our anger away for free.

We don’t have the luxury of giving our anger away for free.

We have daughters to raise in this world.  We owe our young girls the knowledge of the power in their voices, in their anger.  We have lives to live.  We deserve better.  And until then, be angry.  We are a powerful collection of strength.  We can be happy, joyful, strong, weak, sad, silly, and, yes, angry.

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